The Empathy Gap
The Empathy Gap by William Collins
The Empathy Gap proposes the thesis that men and boys are extensively disadvantaged across many areas of life, including in education, healthcare, genital integrity, criminal justice, domestic abuse, working hours, taxation, pensions, paternity, homelessness, suicide, sexual offences, and access to their own children after parental separation. The claim is justified in the book by empirical evidence, mostly but not exclusively from the UK, involving nearly 1,000 references, 179 Figures and 49 Tables.
To most people, of both sexes, this will appear to be a perverse perspective as disadvantage has become the province of women, girls and minorities, not males. Yet the empirical case supporting the disadvantages suffered by men and boys is undeniable to the objective mind. But if this is so, why is the popular perception that males are privileged whereas disadvantage is the province of the opposite sex? Why do the male disadvantages go largely unremarked, by both sexes, if they are so pervasive?
Presenting the case for widespread and substantial male disadvantage is also a challenge to the usual hegemonic paradigm of feminist theory. These issues are addressed within The Empathy Gap by presenting an entirely different orientation on the social psychology of relations between the sexes. Out goes the idea of an oppressive patriarchy. Instead, a man's participation in the human pair bond is seen to be altruistic, a phenomenon arising originally from evolution and enacted in the individual via the emotional psyche. This is the origin of an asymmetry in the perception of the sexes which normalises the preferencing of females and therefore inevitably disadvantages males as a corollary. The successful evolved strategy involves male utility and relative male disposability, the latter being facilitated by a muted empathy for males, by both sexes - the empathy gap. Rather than working to overcome this male disposability, as a true egalitarian movement would have done, feminism has fed upon it and amplified it.
The feminist project relies upon the true state of affairs remaining unacknowledged, and the empathy gap is instrumental in its own invisibility. In respect of this theory, the author makes no claim for originality. The ideas presented have been circulating within the sub-culture for decades. However, the focus of the book is to show how these ideas are manifest in practice.
Website - http://empathygap.uk/
Publisher: LPS Publishing
Number of pages: 696
Weight: 960 g
Dimensions: 234 x 156 x 35 mm
The Myth of Male Power
Warren Farrell - The Myth of Male Power. Other books - Why Men Earn More, Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say, The Boy Crisis.
The Myth of Male Power documents how virtually every society that survived did so by persuading its sons to be disposable--disposable in war, disposable at work--and therefore, indirectly, disposable as dads.
Universities teach our children that we live in a patriarchal world controlled by men to benefit men at the expense of women. Dr. Warren Farrell’s The Myth of Male Power says “false”: the world has not been controlled by men, but by the need to survive.
By redefining power as “control over one’s life” and examining the sacrifices both moms and dads made so their children's lives would be better than theirs, The Myth of Male Power paves the way to love and appreciation between the sexes.
Dr. Farrell says failure to understand men hurts everyone. It makes women feel oppressed and angry; it makes men feel unloved and unappreciated. It fuels hate between the sexes at a point in history that would otherwise possess great potential for love between the sexes. It does this by keeping us ignorant of male pain and powerlessness.
The Myth of Male Power is a captivating journey around the world, throughout history, biology, the Bible, the law, and everyday life, challenging every currently-held assumption about men, women and the family. It empowers both sexes to ask the questions we need to began a genuine dialogue, such as:
If men are the powerful sex…
- Why are they the suicide sex? (Why are we unaware that our grandfathers are 1350 percent more likely to commit suicide than our grandmothers?)
- Why did men live one year less than women in 1920 but five years less than women in 2013?
- Why are our dads more likely to die earlier of the leading causes of death even as we have seven federal offices of women’s health, and none of men’s health?
- Why are our sons still sex expected to pay more for the 5 D’s: drinks; dinners; dates; driving expenses; and diamonds (as in “every kiss begins with Kay”)?
- Why do myths such as “men earn more money for the same work” persist even though they’ve been disproven?
- Why do men receive longer prison sentences for identical crimes?
Dr. Warren Farrell is the only man ever elected three times to the Board of the National Organization for Women (NOW) in New York City. He started more than 300 men and some 200 women’s groups. He is the developer of a new method of highly-effective couples’ communication, Cinematic Immersion. Dr Farrell has listened to both sexes for about a half century.
Unique in his ability to write in a way that articulates men’s feelings, he helps women feel more love for the men in their lives. He helps us understand:
- Why feminism freed women to discover alternative senses of purpose to raising children, but nothing has freed men to find an alternative purpose to raising money;
- How this void of purpose contributes to a boy crisis;
- Why the very process required for men to succeed at work often leads them to fail at love;
- Why no one benefits when we feel that God could be a she but not that the devil could also be a she;
- What both sexes can do to minimize date rape and domestic violence.
Dr. Farrell contends that the historic “battle of the sexes” has become a war in which men put their heads in the sand and hope the bullets will miss.
He proposes neither a women's movement blaming men nor a men's movement blaming women, but a gender liberation movement that fosters a transition from rigid roles of our past to more flexible roles for our future.
The potential? A transition in our love from that of role mates to soul mates. The Myth of Male Power focuses on men’s perspective to facilitate men’s voice, so there can be deeper dialogue, so there will be deeper love…
The War Against Boys
Christina Hoff Summers - The War Against Boys
An updated and revised edition of the controversial classic--now more relevant than ever--argues that boys are the ones languishing socially and academically, resulting in staggering social and economic costs.
Girls and women were once second-class citizens in the nation's schools. Americans responded w ith concerted efforts to give girls and women the attention and assistance that was long overdue. Now, after two major waves of feminism and decades of policy reform, women have made massive strides in education. Today they outperform men in nearly every measure of social, academic, and vocational well-being.
Christina Hoff Sommers contends that it's time to take a hard look at present-day realities and recognize that boys need help. Called "provocative and controversial . . . impassioned and articulate" ("The Christian Science M"onitor), this edition of "The War Against Boys" offers a new preface and six radically revised chapters, plus updates on the current status of boys throughout the book.
Sommers argues that the problem of male underachievement is persistent and worsening. Among the new topics Sommers tackles: how the war against boys is harming our economic future, and how boy-averse trends such as the decline of recess and zero-tolerance disciplinary policies have turned our schools into hostile environments for boys. As our schools become more feelings-centered, risk-averse, competition-free, and sedentary, they move further and further from the characteristic needs of boys. She offers realistic, achievable solutions to these problems that include boy-friendly pedagogy, character and vocational education, and the choice of single-sex classrooms.
"The War Against Boys" is an incisive, rigorous, and heartfelt argument in favor of recognizing and confronting a new reality: boys are languishing in education and the price of continued neglect is economically and socially prohibitive.
12 Rules For Life
Jordan B Peterson - 12 Rules For Life
What does everyone in the modern world need to know? Renowned psychologist Jordan B. Peterson's answer to this most difficult of questions uniquely combines the hard-won truths of ancient tradition with the stunning revelations of cutting-edge scientific research.
Humorous, surprising and informative, Dr. Peterson tells us why skateboarding boys and girls must be left alone, what terrible fate awaits those who criticize too easily, and why you should always pet a cat when you meet one on the street.
What does the nervous system of the lowly lobster have to tell us about standing up straight (with our shoulders back) and about success in life? Why did ancient Egyptians worship the capacity to pay careful attention as the highest of gods? What dreadful paths do people tread when they become resentful, arrogant and vengeful? Dr. Peterson journeys broadly, discussing discipline, freedom, adventure and responsibility, distilling the world's wisdom into 12 practical and profound rules for life. 12 Rules for Life shatters the modern commonplaces of science, faith and human nature, while transforming and ennobling the mind and spirit of its readers.
Bettina Arndt - #MenToo. Other books The Sex Diaries
This respected social commentator is renowned for tackling unmentionable topics. A former clinical psychologist and one of Australia’s first sex therapists, she first became well-known for breaking down taboos about talking about sex.
Now it is men’s lives we aren’t allowed to speak about – the very real problems confronting men and boys in our male-bashing society. #MenToo breaks the silence about what it means to be a man in Australia today.
For decades Bettina has been telling it how it is. She writes about sex-starved husbands, the politics of cleavage, fathers losing contact with children after divorce, false domestic violence allegations, men’s soaring suicide rates, the scary grip of feminism.
Bettina sees #MeToo as simply the latest salvo in a long crusade by feminists to crush male sexuality. She finds most women are appalled by unproven allegations are being used to destroy men's careers and fed up with trivial issues being blown up as sexism. Read her powerful arguments about why feminism has gone off the rails – tilting laws, practises and regulations to unfairly advantage women at the expense of men.
This year she faced hostile protesters on university campuses as she spoke out against the fake rape crisis, the myth that our universities are unsafe for young women. Her campus tour prompted a government inquiry seeking to support campus free speech.
#MenToo – collected wisdom from decades of Bettina’s passionate advocacy for men and boys.
Sons of Feminism
Janice Fiamengo - Sons of Feminism
"Sons of Feminism" is the sister book to "Daughters of Feminism," edited by David Shackleton. Feminist leaders tell us that men are entitled and powerful. Janice Fiamengo actually asked men what it is like to be male in a feminist culture--and they responded. These 25 stories may surprise you with their accounts of men belittled, disliked, dismissed, blamed, falsely accused, and discriminated against under law—all while being expected to apologize for their “male privilege.” The volume includes a substantial introduction by the editor, Janice Fiamengo, and an Appendix of Recommended Reading.
Daughters of Feminism
David Shackleton - Daughters of Feminism
The sister book to "Sons of Feminism" (2017) by Janice Fiamengo, "Daughters of Feminism" presents the stories of 30 women about how they came to gender balance, to an appreciation for the legitimacy of men’s issues as well as women’s issues. These are stories of triumph in the search for truth within a culture of denial and misdirection, by women who love men and want to heal the modern misperception of men. Contributors include Cassie Jaye, Karen Straughan, Diana Davison, Janice Fiamengo and Barbara Kay. Endorsements: “Honest and brave: women telling their stories - I couldn’t put the book down.” – Erin Pizzey, founder of the world’s first women’s shelter. “Daughters of Feminism is a heartfelt, powerful collection of essays by women on what’s really wrong between the sexes today. Passionate, eclectic and engaged, these essays and their authors challenge conventional thinking from many perspectives, often backed by harrowing personal tales.” – John Robson, National Post columnist and documentary filmmaker. “Daughters of Feminism is almost a miracle in this age of #MeToo triumphalism; a collection of essays by women who dare to think critically about themselves as women. Most important, the authors actually care about men, and not only about the men in their own lives. No matter how remote the possibility of inter-sexual dialogue seems right now, these essays offer hope for its eventual realization.” – Paul Nathanson, co-author of Spreading Misandry;The Teaching of Contempt for Men in Popular Culture and other books on misandry. “Introduced with his own wisdom and passion, David Shackleton here presents an ocean of truths rarely expressed—the gender truths that are missing. 30 courageously honest women reveal their awakening from hostility, blame and victim. A real eye-opener, Daughters of Feminism ultimately leads to an evolution in inter-sex unity, balance, fairness and forgiveness.” – Tim Goldich, author of Loving Men, Respecting Women; The Future of Gender Politics.
Men on Strike
Helen Smith - Men on Strike
American society has become anti-male. Men are sensing the backlash and are consciously and unconsciously going “on strike.” They are dropping out of college, leaving the workforce and avoiding marriage and fatherhood at alarming rates. The trend is so pronounced that a number of books have been written about this “man-child” phenomenon, concluding that men have taken a vacation from responsibility simply because they can. But why should men participate in a system that seems to be increasingly stacked against them?
As Men on Strike demonstrates, men aren’t dropping out because they are stuck in arrested development. They are instead acting rationally in response to the lack of incentives society offers them to be responsible fathers, husbands and providers. In addition, men are going on strike, either consciously or unconsciously, because they do not want to be injured by the myriad of laws, attitudes and hostility against them for the crime of happening to be male in the twenty-first century. Men are starting to fight back against the backlash. Men on Strike explains their battle cry.
The Way Men Heal
Tom Golden - The Way Men Heal
The Way Men Heal is a concise book that offers insight into the masculine side of healing. Have you ever wondered why men and women seem to heal differently? If so, this is a book for you. It explains how and why men and some women heal in an active mode rather than an interactive one. It offers plenty of examples including Eric Clapton and how he healed after the death of his young son Conor, and Michael Jordan and how he healed after his father’s murder. You will see how these men and many others use action as a means to tell their story. You will see how they are pulled to the future and use honoring as a means to heal rather than the expected interactive “talking about the past” modes. You will see how those who use these modes do so in a way that is simply not easily detected. It is basically invisible. The book offers a section on how to help the men you love and also a section offering therapists clinical ideas for working with men. If you are a man, read this book to affirm your unique way of healing. If you are a woman, read this book to understand the men you love. When we understand each other our relationships flourish.